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Connecting with Your Teen with ADHD: Why Change Starts with You

Today I want to talk with you about ADHD, parenting, and connection. Many times, as parents, we focus only on our child’s challenges — the meltdowns, the anxiety, the struggles with focus. We look for quick solutions for them. But often, we forget about ourselves. And that’s really where the answer lies.

If you want to see your child thrive, the first step is to raise yourself up. You have the power. You have the ability. And with the right support, you can change the way you show up — and that changes everything for your teen.

The Habit Pathways in Your Brain

Our brains are wired through habits. Think of it like walking across a patch of grass. The first time you cut across, it’s just a step. But when you keep walking the same way, day after day, the grass wears down. A path forms. It becomes automatic — the easiest route. That’s how habits work in the brain.

Some of these habits serve us, like brushing your teeth every morning or reading before bed. But others are automatic responses we don’t even notice — like how we react to stress, or how we speak to our children when we’re frustrated. Those patterns weren’t created overnight. They were shaped by years of repetition — not only from our own choices but also from the generations before us. Our parents, grandparents, even great-grandparents — their ways of responding got passed down, often without us realizing it.

When Life Runs on Autopilot

By the time most of us reach our 30s, so much of life runs on routine. We find our rhythm: work, family, school, daily tasks. It feels comfortable — familiar — and in many ways, safe. But that comfort can also trap us. We stop questioning, we stop stretching, and we stop remembering that we can change.

Then something happens — like raising a child with ADHD — that calls us to break the old paths. To step off autopilot. To respond differently.

Choosing a New Path

Here’s the truth: if you want a different connection with your child, it begins with you. It begins with noticing your own patterns. Ask yourself:

• How do I respond when I’m frustrated?

• What reactions am I repeating without thinking?

• What could I choose differently, even in a small way?

The moment you become aware, you open the possibility of a new pathway. And every time you practice a new response — listening instead of reacting, calming yourself before speaking, offering encouragement instead of criticism — you’re planting new seeds in that patch of grass. Over time, those seeds grow, the old path fades, and something better takes root.

You Don’t Have to Do This Alone

This is the work I do with parents every day. I help you step out of old patterns, raise yourself up, and create a new way of connecting with your teen with ADHD. When you do, your whole family changes.

If you’re ready to break free from the rut and build a stronger, more connected relationship with your child, I’d love to support you. Reach out to me — let’s create the shift together.

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